On March 7, 1903, at the Romanian Academy, B.P. Hasdeu held a conference in which he expressed his gratitude towards his wife, Iulia, born Faliciu, who died on July 2, 1902.
Out of the scholar’s conference, we could know that his living with Iulia extended upon about forty years, full of trials that didn’t split them, but on the contrary, united them even more. “I was sinful, bad and explosive” the scholar admitted, remembering that they used to quarrel “more than once a month ”. Nevertheless, he continued: “but we never thought to divorce, not even for a second, but we loved each other and we still love each other more and more, now when we are old”.
For the scholar, his wife was “a special gold from Abrud”, a devoted soul and a great character, whom he married on June 10, 1865, in Bucharest, at the Church St. Ilie of Gorgani. The event took place two years after they had met.
Even though they were poor, the thoughtfulness and industry of his wife, who «fulfilled all his needs », helped them climb stair by stair. Furthermore, her caresses filled his emptiness, making him feel «complete and bright». «Lady Rosanda» and «Razvan and Vidra» are testimonies of the creative power that guided B.P.Hasdeu during that time. Both theatre plays enhance «a great woman character». His dedications to Iulia suggest her influence upon the writer. In the beginning of the first play, one can read: «To my beloved wife Iulia Petriceicu-Hasdeu, born Faliciu, from Rosia Abrudului, this small attempt, written out of the advice and under the inspiration of her love».
The conference provided information regarding the sacrifices that Iulia Hasdeu made throughout their marriage, when she had to play various roles, such as those of «nanny, teacher, study mate and, in the end, nurse, always awake, always admirable due to her energy and devotion». In 1898, when visiting the couple in Câmpina, Count Angelo de Gubernatis said that although her eyes were still looking for her daughter, she nobly carried the pain of her daughter’s death.
«When Lilica disappeared», said B.P.Hasdeu, «and when we were left alone, without her, on earth, we only lived for each other and one through another, loving Lilica one in the other».
On July 2, 1902, Iulia Hasdeu died. But she continued to live spiritually, as the scholar said in the same conference: «While they were both on Earth: Iulia, my wife, and Iulia, our daughter, I always celebrated my 2 Julias on July 2. On July 19, 1902 – July 2 according to the new calendar – my second Julia died. Well, I will continue to celebrate the same day of July 2, I will celebrate it quiet and content, because to me they haven’t died».